Are You A Bitch?

In my previous post i've mentioned i'll share a few tips from the book "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov, so here's the first.

10 Characteristics Of A Bitch

1. She maintains her independence

She earns a honest living. She earns her own money. Doesn't matter if she's the CEO of company or a waitress. She does not expect hand outs.

2. She doesn't pursue him

The world does not revolve around him and he is definitely not the center of her world. She doesn't chase him or keep tabs on him. Sure there's a school of thought that says it's okay for a woman to make the first move but there'a a difference in making a first move or giving a green light and chasing a man. 

3. She is mysterious

There is a difference in honesty and disclosure. She is honest but does not reveal everything.Familiarity breads contempt and predictability breeds boredom. 

4. She leaves him wanting

She doesn't spend every night or every weekend with him. She isn't on the phone everyday with him. Always leave them wanting more. Men equate longing with love. 

5. She doesn't let him see her sweat

She is not emotional when communicating and avoids communication when upset. She is clear and speaks in a "bottom line" way.

6. She remains in control of her time

She never rush things, she moves to her rhythm, not his, preventing him to take control of her.

7. She maintains a sense of humor

a sense of humor lets him know she is detached. However she doesn't treat disrespect as a           laughing matter.

8. She places a high value on herself

When he gives her compliment, she says thank you. She doesn't ask what the ex look like and doesn't compete with other woman. She knows what she's worth. 

9. She is passionate about something other than him

When he feels he isn't the "be all and end all" of her life, it makes her more desirable. Staying busy ensures she isn't resentful if he is unavailable. She is interesting if she's passionate about something else. 

10. She treats her body like a finely tuned machine
She maintains her appearance and health. A person's self respect is reflected in how he or she maintains physical appearance. If he tells her he doesn't like red lipstick, she wears it anyway, if it makes her feel good. 

It's all about self-respect, self-love and the control over your own life. If you don't love and respect yourself enough, how can you expect others to respect and love you? 

You don't need others to validate your self worth. Don't compare yourself with another girl. Remember, you are special and unique, beautiful in your own way.