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| Cik Panda, as mak ayam (GOAL) |
When I posted THIS, my friends go crazyyyyyy. In fact they are more excited than I am. Maybe they think I found the one? But calm down, he is not my boyfriend and I'm not getting married anytime soon.
They don't call me mak ayam for nothing.
There is this one book I highly recommend for ladies who wanted tips on relationships. It does not teach you to be a mean bitch but it teaches you how not to lose yourself in relationships.
Because in any relationship, the most important person is yourself and the most important relationship you'll ever have is with yourself.
Click this LINK for snippets of the book. And THIS for general pot pet pot pet.
I dated a lot of guys. A LOT. Cik Meow and Cik Pah couldn't keep track of who and who anymore.
"Ishhh cicak mana pulak ni? Kuda mana pulak ni? si anu mana pulak ni? si polan mana pulak ni. Pening lah!"
Unlike most ladies, I don't date with the purpose of getting into a relationship and later hoping to marry the guy.
Marriage is not on top of my list at the moment. Or relationships.
I dated solely for the fun of dating, getting to know someone, and to know more people. Believe it or not, in the process, you'll get to know yourself better too.
I know, as ladies, we get emotionally attached too soon. Over the years, I learn not to emotionally attach myself to a guy I'm seeing. Of course, time and time again, I learned it the hard way and got hurt soo many times along the way.
Most of the time, we break our own hearts. Imagine this, you just met a guy and both of you had a good time together. And you see yourself as a couple, you think about him 24/7, then you imagine yourself getting married, and you even have names for your future kids.
Angau tak hengat lahhh I cakap kat uu.
Trust me, on the guy's side, he's just enjoying his time with you without thinking so much into the future. For all you know, he's also seeing a few other girls at the same time.
Si mamat tu takde pun bagi harapan kat uols, tapi uols yang over angau berimaginasi bagai kan?
You break your own heart with your own hope and expectations.
My advice is, don't date with expectations. See how things go then only you decide if you can take the next step.
And you must also learn to jual mahal. Learn to distinguish a guy who really wanted to be with you and a guy who is just using you.
Guys are hunter. They go after what they want, whatever it takes. They didn't say it but they like the thrill of the chase. Think about it like this:
1. A boy wanted a red toy fire engine at the store. He will come and admire the toy every single day while working his ass off washing cars, delivering papers to earn enough money to buy that toy. So one fine day, he finally collected enough money to buy that toy. It is a toy that he will cherished every day because he work hard for it.
2. Compare to this scenario. He wanted a red toy fire engine and got it for a birthday present, without working hard for it. He'll play with it 2 days then throw the toy aside, bored.
So which one do you want to be?
If you are the one who's always making the first contact, the first move, asking him out, asking him when can you see him again, it's obvious you are doing the chasing.
If they miss you or wanted to talk to you, they will call or text. If they wanted to see you, they'll make plans. It's as simple as that. Give them chance, time and space to miss you.
Don't make yourself too available. Don't cancel all your prior plans to see him just because he call at the last minute. Don't make him your priority. Your priority is you and your other needs like eating, sleeping, resting, your hobbies, your family and friends.
Don't text them repeatedly or call them non-stop when they did not reply your text.
Get busy with your own life. When they did not hear from you often, they'll begin to wonder what are you up to and why didn't you do the chasing anymore.
You are busy having fun and living your own life, even if it means you are just staying in on Friday night.
One more thing girls, just because you like a guy, doesn't mean you should stop seeing or dating other people. You should keep your options open.
Do you know why guys get back into a relationship so fast after another ended? Because even when they are in a relationship, they didn't stop being friends with the opposite sex.
Jangan setia membabi buta.
I get kinda freak-out (okay that is an over statement) when my youngest sister wanted to emulate my dating habit. She wanted to be a MAK AYAM like me.
Matilanaaakkkkkk
Cik Meow pulak selalu cakap
"Bestnya jadi Cik Panda. Asyik datinggggg je. Banyak jantansss pulak tu."
It's fun but it's not easy all the time. I get lonely and feel alone from time to time and the way i see it, these guys that come and go, is like taking drugs.
It's a temporary fix with even worse withdrawal effects.
A playgirl I'm not. I don't give any of these guys hopes or promises. No commitment is involved. I just enjoy the company and the interaction.
If you are still young and single, who's to stop you from meeting people and having fun? Don't take life too seriously. Open your mind and have fun.
And stop judging those who did.
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