Since New Year's day, I've seen some 85's babies moaning, dreading reaching the big 3 O. These people are mostly married and some with children.
Oh dear. Come on. There's nothing to dread. It's going to come anyway. It's not like you can be in your twenties forever.
And then I was like, come on la dude. I'm turning 30 in a month and a few days time and if we were to compare, I'm unmarrried, childless, I don't own a property and according to society's standard, I failed miserably in achieving the pre-set milestone.
When I look at people my age, with most of them married and having kids, it's easy to fall into the trap of comparing my low moments with their high moments.
But I have to always remember this, there's so much more going on behind that happy couple/loving family thing. Things like financial issues, in-laws, cheating spouses.
Did I tell you the story about a couple whose wife had just given birth to their first baby and she was back in her hometown for confinement? Her husband took the opportunity of the wife's absence to bring his girlfriend into their marital home.
And they are planning to get married end of this year. Terrible, I know.
Am I miserable because of my increasing age and the many things that I did not achieve before I reach 30 (like getting married and have kids)?
No I'm not. In fact I'm looking forward to be in my thirties.
Why shouldn't I?
I'm in my best shape, so far. I think I looked better than when I was in my twenties. And didn't you know, women are most beautiful and sexy in their 30's?
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| It took 30 years to look this good |
I'm confident and comfortable with myself, my body, my life choices. My mind is at ease. Every night before I sleep, I only have myself and my family's welfare to think about. I'm more matured and experienced in handling life.
When it comes to relationship, I'm no longer this googly eyed, fool in love kinda lady. And regarding life choices, you decide how to live your life because in the end, it's your life and only you have to deal with the consequences. People can try to say this and that, telling you to do this and that, but know that you don't have to listen to them.
I looked forward to a night in on any day. Watching tv with a hot cup of tea is more inviting than the idea of clubbing into the wee hours.
Would I like to back to my twenties?
No. I was insecure, miserable and stupid in my twenties. I was ugly, fat and unsure of myself and my life choices. I was a people pleaser back then and ignored my heart.
Age is just a number. If you looked after yourself well, you'll look better than a 20 years old girl even when you are in your 40's. Eat well, exercise well, keep your heart and your mind healthy.
By the way, people have always remarked I don't look my age, so what have I got to worry? I'm thinking of doing something cool for my 30th birthday. Any ideas?
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