Loving Someone Unconditionally

Do we really know what love is? Or how to love someone? 

Most of the time, we do certain things for people or become someone we think they will love, to gain their love and affection. 

Because in a way, we are programmed to be conditional, to expect something in return for our love.

It is not unconditional love when other people like us for doing what they want or because we give them what they wanted from us. 

It's just like we’re “paying” for love in a way  with what we do to get their attention and affection. 

What is unconditional love?

Unconditional love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves.

Unconditional love is when we make stupid mistakes, when we fail to do what other people want, and yet they don’t feel disappointed or irritated with us. 

When we make a seemingly poor choice about our lives, take a wrong turn and yet they still love us. 

Its unconditional love that keeps them right there, not judging or punishing but loving without conditions. 

It’s that love alone that has the power to heal all wounds and bind people together. 

It's the kind of love that does not expect anything in return. The kind of love that accepts you as who you are, with all your flaws and weaknesses. 

Loving you without wanting you to change, without being judgemental. 

Unconditional love surpasses o

ne's race, religion, physicality, what they can or can't do. 

Sometimes I wish all of us can see and focus on the beautiful soul inside each and everyone of us instead of the labels attached to our physicality. 

But loving someone is not easy and loving unconditionally is even harder because often times we hold back, for fear of getting hurt and have our heart broken. 

But I guess, that is the risk that we have to take. Everyone is going to hurt us at some point, we just need to find someone who's worth it. 

But then think about this. 

It's always unmet expectations that hurt us isn't it? So if we were to love someone unconditionally (i.e without expectation), we won't get hurt. No? But because we are programmed to expect something in return for love, loving unconditionally is really challenging.

Have you met anyone who loved you unconditionally? or have you loved anyone unconditionally?

I know my mum loves me unconditionally. No matter what life choices I make or whatever mistakes I did, she accepts me as who I am and supports me in whatever I do. She lets me live my life and gave me her blessings.