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I have always thought men and women can be just friends. Totally platonic. Apparently my male friends did not think so. And few happenings have made me questioned what i thought.
In our daily lives, non-romantic friendships between males and females are not only possible, but common—men and women live, work, and play side-by-side, and generally seem to be able to avoid spontaneously sleeping together or fall in love with each other.
However, the possibility remains that this apparently platonic relationship is merely a put-up-show, something to cover up the romantic feelings and sexual attraction bubbling just beneath the surface.
People may think they are capable of being “just friends” with members of the opposite sex, but the opportunity (or perceived opportunity) for “romance” is often lurking just around the corner, waiting to pounce at the most inopportune moment.
Study conducted on 88 undergrad students found that men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. The majority of men believed that their female friends were attracted to them also – but those guys were wrong. It turns out that majority of women were not attracted to their male friends and also had no idea that their male friends were attracted to them.
In conclusion, men think about opposite-sex friendships much differently than women do. And guys have a harder time being "just friends" with a girl.
That's why guys are more likely to be "friend-zoned" than girls.
Apparently they can be friends but one person is always going to have more than platonic feelings for the other person. Few will have the guts to confess their feelings but most would take the friendship to another level if they are given the chance.
Anyway, what triggers this post?
Let's just say it happened to me several times this year. I should call 2013 a year of confessions. I'm baffled. I didn't know what triggers those confessions but i didn't saw it coming. Our relationship was always platonic. Or at least that's what i thought.
Sebelum saya kena cakap "untung laaa banyak orang suka. Laku." It does not happen to me alone. The same thing happens to a lot of other girls. And its not about if you're pretty or beautiful. When people say they liked me, i will always asked "What is it about me?". and they always say they liked my attitude, how independent, humble or how well i carry myself.
There is one thing i respect about these male friends. They respect a bro's relationship. When they like a girl and that girl is in a relationship, they have the dignity to not interfere with somebody's relationship. They are happy enough that the girl is happy, even if she is with someone else.
Well, anyway, i have no problem with being "just friends" with a guy but i should probably warn any guys who wanted to be my friend/good friend. "Yes we can be friends. But don't fall in love with me."
Okay, ayat itu sangat perasan. heuheu.
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