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The 5 Love Languages. What's Yours?


Did you know that there are actually 5 love languages and each and every one of us speaks different kind of language? 

 Well, not that different but all of us have our own main love language.

I absolutely love the book "The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. It suggests that we humans express love in different ways, namely in the 5 following ways:

1. Words of affirmation – you need to hear words of encouragement, praise or affirmations to feel loved. i.e You are really good or you did well!
 


2. Quality time – Spending time together, doing little things together, watching the sunset and have deep conversation.

3. Receiving/giving gifts – people who speak this language are not materialistic. Even an inexpensive and small gift is enough to make them feel loved and appreciated. They feel loved when people buys them gifts and they really do appreciate the gifts. 


4. Acts of Service –  people who speak this language likes to be taken care of things like getting groceries, fixing things around the house, running errands.

5. Physical Touch – Those who speak this language feels loved when their partner constantly doing things such as caressesing their face, holds your hand even at home, gives you a hug without being asked, etc. (Physical touch is not the same as sex, but it can often lead to that.)


The love is not only confined to romantic love. It includes all kinds of love. i.e relationship with siblings, friends or even colleagues.

 You can find out your love language by doing the quiz here.

I found out mine was physical touch. Cough cough. Ah..no wonder la. Well anyway, the cruelest way to hurt a person who speak this language is to simply deny them any physical contact.

 Ouchh.

 And then as time goes by, few years after I did the quiz the first time, I did it again and surprisingly my main language has evolved to Acts of Service.

Maybe I'm not that horny touchy feely as before. Kaaahhhhhh!

 Well, I mean if you are gonna share a home or life with someone, you want someone who shares the house chores with you right? 

 At this age, I appreciate someone who helps me to change the light bulbs or help to vacuum the house or at least help to water my plants. More than some guy who wants to kiss or hug or cuddle all day long.

 Rimas hakak tau. Banyak keja rumah nak buat ni. hahaha.

Anyway, do read this book. It is highly recommended. 
This was the edition i read 

Comments

  1. UnknownOctober 29, 2013 at 10:24 PM

    oohhhh... I'm sssooooo getting this book! any tips on how to identify and handle the different types of "love languages" inside? I could use some pointers! >.<

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  2. Cyn WilsonOctober 31, 2013 at 12:30 AM

    Mainly by observing them and be attentive to things they say or complaint about. Like for example they say "How come you never buy me gifts anymore?" might indicate they speak "Gift of love" or when they always say "You don"t hold my hand anymore" might indicate they speak "Physical touch". A must read book :)

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