Girls Talk: It's A BABY FISHY Business

Yay?

Phew. Finally some normality after 10 days of abnormality. I have lots of inspiration for an entry but let this be the first after 10 days of no-blog-post.

How should i start? Hmm..

In recent years, it has become acceptable for older woman to date younger man. These younger man are often referred to as "anak ikan" and the older woman are known as "cougar". But cougars are usually those above 40 years old. But meh, that definition does not apply in this post. Any older woman dating younger man, i would call them cougar. And 1 or 2 years age difference does not apply to this rule, some say it has to be at least 5 years.

I am in my late twenties and i can tell you, at this age, it is already difficult enough to meet someone around my age who's unattached. Most of my peers are settling down and having babies. My FB newsfeed is often flooded with pictures of friend's kids. But then again, I'm not complaining. 

This is just too cute! 

Like most girls, i would prefer someone older and matured. But strangely, I was almost always approached by younger guys. It's probably because i don't look my age. They are 5-6 years younger than me! Guys that age should be looking for girls like my youngest sister who's 18, not someone like me who gushes over how cute her friend's baby is or worrying about things like the rising prices of a house. I should be flattered. Cough cough. 

Well, what do i think of them?

They are like little puppies. Well, the ones i met of course. Full of energy and so eager to please. They still do some baby/cutesy talk, uses too much emoticons. And sometimes i find the things they talked about are plain boring and unstimulating (is there such a word?). Those are still acceptable. What i find a real turn off is how needy, clingy and insecure they can be. When you did not answer their call or you reply their text like 10 minutes later, they'll ask you things like "Why are you not answering my call? Who are you with? Are you with some other guy? Do you like me? You don't like me anymore?". It's really exhausting. They probably have not reach that emotional stability, security and confidence that usually comes with age and experience. 

Some of them have this ego, guys stuff that they think i don't know. They loved to crack some guys jokes and refuse to explain what it really mean when i asked, saying "It's a secret" or "This is guy's secret. Girls cannot know these things" Oh how i love to pretend not knowing what they actually mean. With my fair share of experience and first hand stories from Playboys, Casanovas, Jantan Sial i came across, i believe i know more than they do. Like heloo, saya lagi dulu makan garam. *snapfingersfourcorners*

Oh ya, they probably forgot i'm much older than them. heh. Oh perhaps they are just trying to impress me, telling me they are a stud. A man's man. 

Of course, not every anak ikan is immature, needy and clingy. Maybe it's just my luck that i met the needy clingy ones. My friend once met someone 8 years younger than she is and is a total sweetheart. He was sweet, caring, cheerful, supportive and was always beside my friend in her sadness and happiness. He was, in my friend's word "matured than his age". 

In short, it's their maturity and the chemistry you had with them that counts. To be fair, there are a lot of older man who are not matured. Age is basically just a number. 

Would i date a younger guy? Why not.