Skip to main content

Friday Feels: Moving House Is VERY STRESSFUL

 Friday Feels: Moving House Is VERY STRESSFUL


Moving house is one of the most stressful things in life.

I hate moving house. If you are lucky enough to never experience moving house, let me tell you, it is very stressful. 

Recently I moved again after 6 years. 

The first move was quite a story. We were living in an old flat house on the 4th floor. No lift, dark corridors, frequent water shortage issue, dodgy neighbourhood but hey, the rent was cheap.

But what really pushed us (me) over the edge was:

1. Collapsed ceiling in the first room that was thankfully empty
2. Part of plaster ceiling in my room collapsed, thank God I wasn't home when it happened
3. Blocked toilet - How to live in a house where you cannot berak? is it even a house?

This second move is even more stressful. 

I was supposed to get the key to the new place a week before I moved out from my current place. That gives me sufficient time to settle things, deal with the management office, applying a permit to move in/out.

But you know, shit happens and whatever can go wrong will go wrong. 

I only got the key 1 1/2 days before 1st Dec. 

Landlord Puaka?

I asked the current landlord if I can extend 3 more days to give me more time to pack, clean the house and get the electrician to come check the main switch in the master room that decided now is a good time to stop working.

You would expect that after renting the unit for 6 years, paying rent, bills & fees on time, took care of the house like it's my own, she would have some empathy or understanding to give me few more days to properly move out.

But nope. She only got back to me a few days after I asked and say 

"Sorry, I already have a new tenant on 1st Dec" 

Can you believe it?

How do you find a tenant if you have not seen the current condition of the unit? She doesn't even have the current picture of it. 

The unit that I rented was actually quite basic. No fridge, kitchen cabinet. Sinki pun sinki cap ayam sis.

It is also in a very competitive property area. There are a lot of new apartment complexes nearby with better facilities, better environment at a similar rate compared to this unit that is in an older building with a basic facility (yes I'm referring to you, old musty gym with broken equipment).

Well, of course on the day itself after I return the key, she uploaded a status looking for a tenant 👀

Kalau dapat tenant puaka dari neraka, haruslah saya berpesta 7 hari 7 malam parti bertemakan "Karma Is A Bitch"

Why Moving House Is Very Stressful?

It was such a stressful process. You know sometimes when you are under stress but you don't realize it because you are on overdrive mode?

That happens to me. My mind was constantly working, worrying and anxious 24/7. My body is dead tired but every night for 1 week, I can't sleep (I usually have no issues with sleep).

Not only was I physically stressed but I'm emotionally stressed too. Aside from feeling betrayed by the landlord, I have to adapt to a new place, how to get around, where to buy groceries, where is the nearest ATM and things like that. 

Constantly thinking, figuring things out and my anxiety is going over the roof! 

And I also felt lost for quite a while. Being a creature of comfort and familiarity, all these changes and new environment throws me out of balance. I feel adrift, unanchored. Like I don't know who myself is anymore?

Is This Relocation Depression?

Never knew it's a thing but there really is a depression related to relocation. When you relocate, a chapter of your life is coming to a close. You are also facing this fear of the unknown, loss of familiarity, and security.

If you are like me, you most likely experience these symptoms too:
  • Hopelessness
  • Isolation
  • Fearfulness
  • Forgetfulness
  • Agitation
  • Aggression
  • Lack of interest in pleasurable activities
  • Loss of interest in sex
  • Finding it difficult to concentrate
Relocation depression is heightened when the move is rushed or forced. And being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSPs), moving is extremely unsettling because HSPs process experiences more deeply than others. 

It was really overwhelming trying to process all these new and unfamiliar sensory inputs. 

Undeniably, change is hard because our brains crave the familiar, and want things to stay the way they were. I guess it will take time to feel like myself again. 

Comments

Others Also Read This!

Porn Puaka Di Gym

Tajuk mengundang kontroversi Sis ni bukan apa rajin pergi gym, selain nak bersenam, iols juga suka mencuci mata. Bukan setakat mencuci mata dengan jantan helok (I'm still hoping sebab gym iols pegi tu SENDUU), sis juga suka melihat gegadis yang fefeeling gedik dengan bermacam fesyen di gym tu. Biasanya gegadis newbie ni macam cendawan. Muncul sekejap di kala azam baru masih utuh yakni di awal tahun atau selepas perayaan di mana memasing nak kurus.  Tunggulah 2 bulan kemudian langsung tak nampak batang hidung ataupun buttcheeks. Eh? Sebenarnya salah satu benda Cik Panda nak cerita pasal butt cheeks. Butt cheeks are absolutely NO NO except at the pool or beach when you are in your swimsuit.  Cik Panda tak jealous la uols sebab Cik Panda tak hingin pun nak ada bontot yang jelly welly tu. ZAssssss So hari tu ada sorang minah ni baru 1st time iols nampak kat gym, tengah workout dengan bopren dia la gitu. Pakai sports bra je dengan really short shorts yang menampakkan ...

Resipi Lemon Butter Cake Gebu, Mudah Dan Dijamin Sedap

Resipi Lemon Butter Cake Gebu, Mudah Dan Dijamin Sedap I love cakes but I love baking more than I love eating them.  So sapa jadi mangsa habiskan kek-kek yang iols buatkan?  Colleagues dan kawan-kawan iols lah yang untung.  *Misi menggemukkan rakan sekerja* Lemon butter cake ni iols pernah buat seketika dahulu dan digemari oleh kawan iols, Ari Fatonah Diva. Tiba-tiba hari tu, iols dikunjungi oleh seruan angin surirumahtangga dan teringin nak buat lemon butter cake ni.  Resipi ni iols ambik dari blog Phong Hong Bakes and Cooks . I love her blog because she is a die-hard foodie and hilarious too. By the way, resipi ni CPPS approved sebab kek ni ringan dan gebu. It's on the lighter, not-so-dense side with a nice, not too overpowering aroma and taste of lemon. Super sedap dan digemari ramai!  Bahan-bahannya senang didapati, cuma teknik whisking egg whites and fold in the batter tu uols kena mantap sikit la. Hehe.  Lols. Just showing how air...

5 Popular Meal Replacement Shakes In Malaysia

 5 Popular Meal Replacement Shakes In Malaysia Image: Louis Hansel/ Unsplash Are you trying to lose weight but find it difficult to control your daily calorie intake? Or you are someone who is always on the go, regularly skipped meals, and find it really difficult to find healthy, well-balanced meals because of your extremely busy and demanding life?  Meal replacement shakes could be the answer that you are looking for. What Is Meal Replacement Shakes? Generally, meal replacement shakes have a calorie count of around 200–400 calories and a decent amount of protein, fiber, and essential vitamins and minerals. It is essentially meal-on-the-go.  Meal Replacement Shakes vs Protein Shakes. Are They The Same? They are not the same  and are designed for different goals. Meal replacement shakes is designed to replace your meal so it must contain the essential nutrients (carbs, protein, fat, fibre, vitamin and minerals) A protein shake is just intended to deliver protein...

5 Produk Kurus Di Watsons: Jom Kita Review Bahan- Bahan Yang Terkandung Dalam Produk

5 Produk Kurus Di Watsons: Jom Kita Review Bahan- Bahan Yang Terkandung Dalam Produk   Adakah anda antara orang yang pernah beli produk kurus sebab terpengaruh dengan iklan atau testimoni kawan-kawan? Beli tapi kenapa ya tak kurus-kurus?  Okay takpa sis, kita try pulak produk lain. Produk X ni orang cakap bagus, maka korang pun terpengaruh lepas tu beli lepas tu tak nampak result. Frustrating kan? Badan tak kurus pun, yang kurus tu dompet uols je. Produk kurus memang sentiasa laku sepanjang zaman. Kat mana-mana pun ada jual, banyak sangat kat pasaran.  Tapi macam mana kita nak tau yang mana okay, yang mana tak okay dan bazir duit je nak beli? Ha, kenalah jadi pengguna yang bijak sisturs & brother sekalian. Ambik tahu apa bahan-bahan yang terkandung dalm produk tu, fahami macam mana produk ni membantu untuk menurunkan badan.  Baca:  Kenali Bahan Lazim Yang Terkandung Dalam Produk Kurus Atau Fat Burner Barulah kita tidak senang terpengaruh dengan iklan at...

Common Malaysian Favourite Food And Their Calorie Content

Common Malaysian Favourite Food And Their Calorie Content Oh, Malaysia is definitely a food heaven. We have a looonnnnnggggg list of yummy food. My favourite would be nasi lemak ayam goreng.  Sinful, i know but definitely the best. Others on the list is Penang Char Kueh Teow with lots of clams, Thosai masala, roti canai roti telur...etc.  But do you know what is the calorie content of these foods? Some food have calories that exceeds your daily calorie intake with just one serving!   How Many Calories Should You Consume Per Day?  In general*: Adult male: 2440 kcal/day Adult female: 2000kcal/day * depending on your activity level. Or your weight (kg) x 30. i.e 50 x30= 1500kcal/day. Let's See How Many Calories These Favourite Malaysian Foods Contains:  1 Karipap = 128 kcal  (almost equivalent to 2 hard boiled eggs!) Sarawak Kolo Mee = 467 kcal Mee goreng mamak = 660 kcal Char Kueh Teow = 629 kcal Teh tarik = 83 kcal Mee...