Perlu Ke Ikut Cakap Orang?

The other day, me and my group of friends were whatsapping during work.

Shhhhhh...

But then who doesn't nowadays?

I'm sure you have at least one work-related Whatsapp group right? The rule of no phones during work does not apply in our current work situation.

Another cons of technology is that it causes work to permeates our personal life easily. But that topic is for another day.

What I would like to poret about today is how we kill ourselves with social expectations or how social expectations kill us.

Depends on how you look at it.

Naturally, we were talking about marriage and weddings. Among the four of us, only one was married. Another 3 are modern, career woman who don't give an Ffff about being married by certain age.

But then, we are living in a "caring" society.

People around us kept asking when are we going to settle down like the rest of our friends.

"Bila nak kahwin? Umur dah meningkat. Nanti tak laku. Susah nak dapat anak. Nanti dah tua tapi anak kecik lagi."

Kenapa orang sekeliling sangat risau dengan status weols sedangkan weols tuan badan tak kisah pun.

"Ala, kalau ada, adalah. Kalau takde pun takpe."

"I will get married when the time comes."

Okay ni kalau untuk kitorang yang hati kental lah. Kalau diorang yang hati tisu, kebanyakkannya give in to social expectation, got married to anyone just for the sake of getting married and in most cases, become unhappily ever after.

That's marriage.

And now weddings.

Kalau ikut kewangan dan prinsip mengukur baju di badan sendiri, cadang nak buat majlis yang sederhana.

Tetapi kalau mengikut ego, air muka dan social expectation, majlis kecik nanti buat malu mak bapak. Nak lagi grand dari majlis kawan. Tak buat besar-besaran nanti orang kampung, sedara mara bawak mulut.

Majlis sederhana orang mengata, majlis besar-besaran pun orang mengata.

Kesimpulannya, tidak kiralah apa kita buat sekalipun, ada sahaja yang tak betul dimata orang, ada sahaja orang mengata dan tak puas hati.

Okay sekarang pasal anak pulak.

CPPS kenal beberapa orang kawan yang sudah berkahwin tetapi belum dikurniakan anak.

These group of people have their own stress.

Stress daripada masyarakat, saudara mara, makcik-makcik bawang yang memberi tekanan secara tidak langsung untuk mereka mendapatkan anak.

Lebih tertekan kalau soalan bertubi-tubi itu datang dari dalam keluarga sendiri ( mak mentua from hell).

Baru setahun kahwin, dah diasak dengan soalan kenapa tak mengandung lagi. Disuruhnya berubat ke merata tempat. Macam-macam lagi lah kalau mulut-mulut orang tidak berlesen ni.

CPPS tak paham kenapa orang kena sibuk sangat pasal hidup orang lain. Itu hidup dia, biarlah dia nak tentukan macam mana. Selagi dia tak menyusahkan orang lain, dia bahagia dengan jalan yang dia dah pilih, lantak dia lah.

It's our life, our decision and it's us who have to live with the decisions. Not them. So make the best choice for yourself. After all, life is too short.

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