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Cerita Nelayan Dan Ikan-Ikannya


Looking back at the past few weeks, I wonder what did I do with my off days that I didn't get to update my blog. Macam busy sangat tapi tidak tau apa saya buat. Bleurghhh. Macam banyak kerja mau settle tapi last2 bergulung dalam comforter, bergolek2 atas tilam. 

I know you guys miss my poretan. Hihihi.

If you don't know, my friends and I refer our new conquest as Ikan. Whatever ikan la. Anak ikan, bapak ikan, ikan kembong, ikan bakar, ikan salmon. So whenever we meet someone new, we'll be like "I've got this new ikan."

So the other day, while I just got up and getting ready for work dengan rambut macam hampas kelapa sawit (Jasmine, 2013), mamai2 sambil berus gigi, my housemate who is all ready for work was having her breakfast while watching the morning news about Hari Nelayan. Then she said to me

"Selamat Hari Nelayan cyn! Ko kan suka memancing, pemancing Ikan berjaya."

Dengggggg. Pagi2 sudah terkena. Huk.huk.huk

By the way, I was busy because I was doing a lot of groundwork. Gathering information about the enemy. Oh you know, the battle called Guys & Dating. 

In most of the conversations I had with guys, sometimes I would just sit there while they talked among themselves about girls and dating, one common theme came up. Girls don't understand them. They want girls to understand their work commitments, they want girls to give them time and space to do what they want or to spend time with friends. 

Us ladies always make the mistake of hogging them. Texting them all the time, wanting to see them all the time. I used to be like that too. I used to get upset when they spend more time at work or with friends but not with me. I was not being understanding. It was as if I don't have a life of my own. At the end of the day, you'll feel being taken for granted and began to resent him. Rasa macam kita ni yang terhegeh2. 

What should you do?

Don't contact them first. Let them miss you. Give them the time and space and let them come to you. Occupy yourself so you don't think too much about them. Go live your life, give your best at work, go to the gym, go meet your friends or spend time with family. Let the guy in your life wonder what you are up to, or what makes you so busy that you don't have time for them anymore. 

True Story of Jual Mahal

This is a confession from friends-labelled-heartbreaker. So this guy I'm seeing have been labelled by his friends as a heart-breaker. He was telling me about all the girls he met before. This is his exact words.

"Meeting a girl is like fishing. You letak umpan, then you pancing, ikan tu makan umpan terus. It's too easy. You dapat ikan tu then you buang because it's too easy. If let say, I letak umpan, then ikan tu datang main2 je dengan umpan, lepas tu ikan tu blah, datang blah, datang blah, I akan jadi geram. Tapi bila I dapat Ikan tu, I akan appreciate sangat2 sebab bukan senang I dapat."

We are all mature adults here so I'm sure you can handle the next thing he said

"There are girls who I only met for the first time, 'molest' me and I 'molest' them. Or girls who let me kiss them on the first date. These are the girls that I know I can't go far with (in terms of commitment). I like it when a girl can turn me on then left me hanging like that. It became a challenge and I'll want to see her more."

Girls often give in too soon, fall in love too soon, want a relationship so bad and sacrifice so much of themselves. When you do that, you don't give guys enough challenge. Guys are hunter. They like to hunt and they like challenge. Be that challenge.

I personally know a lot of beautiful, amazing girls who are treated like crap and taken for granted.by the man in their life. It really saddens me because I know they deserve better. I feel them because I've been in that shoe too. 

One of the best self-help/relationship book I've read is this Why Men Love Bitches. I'll read and reread it again whenever I needed a confidence boost. And you know me, I like to do experiment so I applied most of the tips in the book. Click HERE for some of the tips

Guess what? It really does work. 

Now, where's my fishing rod?  





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