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For the whole of February I did not post anything, my laptop went kaput. My thesis correction is no where near completion and I have to get a new laptop which I'm not sure when will arrive. I'm writing this in a cyber cafe. Nampak kegigihan disitu.
People have always remarked to me, asking why don't I date someone of my own tribe or of my own religion. Why you don't want to find a Bidayuh guy or an Iban guy so on and so forth. A Bidayuh blogger once wrote in her blog the reasons why Bidayuh men is not appealing to her and I couldn't help but agree with some of her points. Read about it HERE
I'm writing this to voice my own opinion and let you know how are things on my side.
Why don't i date a Dayak guy?
Because they have no guts to pursue me.
It's not that I don't try. Friends and families have tried to match-make me and I go along but things were just not meant to be. When I was younger, I was friends with a Bidayuh guy who bored me to death. All he talks about is himself and football.
Sometimes I think I intimidated them. They would always say things like "I'm not good enough for you. You have medical degree, you have masters, I have nothing. Bla bla bla." Those words came from someone who is an engineer and a government servant. People who have stable jobs and accomplished. Another guy would tell me I was too sexy, too social. too this too that and would always scrutinize and find faults in things I do or say.
I have no time or energy to deal with insecurities.
I'm an educated 30 years old lady who worked her ass off to earn her own money, to pay for her rent, loans and bills. Who believes in achieving her dreams and things that fulfills and make her happy. Who worked even harder to maintain her good health and physique. Who believes she is a good person.
It is perfectly normal to have expectations and I expect my other half to more or less do the same. When you are that accomplished in your life, would you want to settle for someone who have no drive to improve himself? Mentally, physically or in terms of achievements which doesn't necessarily meant material things. When you have been independent for whole of your adult life, you would want someone who can inspire you to become a better person. Or someone who you can count on.
Deny it all you can but first impression does count. Some guys tend to let themselves go. They don't bother with looking after themselves physically, or have the effort to dress up properly. I understand that Kuchingnites are laid back people but that doesn't mean you have to wear battered t-shirt and short pants with slippers EVERYWHERE.
It's not about good looking but it's about looking good. Lelaki kalau tidak hensem tidak apa, janji pandai bergaya.
Kalau pasal pemakaian boleh dimaafkan lagi tapi kalau baru 25 tahun, bujang tapi perut boroi macam bapak anak 3 macam mana?
While I don't expect a Greek God with six packs and a dazzling smile, I expect someone who care enough about himself to exercise and keep a healthy lifestyle. Kalau diri sendiri pun tidak terjaga, macam mana saya mau expect orang tu untuk jaga saya dan keluarga nanti?
I have nothing against Bidayuh or Iban or Melanau or xx or yy guys. It's not about race as all race and religion have good and bad. At the end of the day, it's about love and chemistry.
Before you ask me why don't i date a Dayak guy, ask them first why they are scared to pursue me.
Truss terasa ku.. dah boroi dh ni.. hahaha
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha! Apa macam ni geng? Belum kawen sudah boroi.
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