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Why Woman Body Shame Each Other?

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The other day I was scrolling through Instagram and came across Lisa Surihani's photo. Anyone who followed her know that not only she is talented, she is also beautiful and smart.

Dia bukan artis yang selfie fefeeling cantik memanjang, yang sentiasa inginkan pujian " Gorgeous sis. Tak pernak tak cantik".

Tidak sama sekali. She doesn't need that kind of approval. She is passionate about other things in life, a woman with substance and depth.

Someone young ladies out there should emulate I would say.

She also had a baby somewhere this year and I know she is working hard to get back in shape. Lisa probably is the type of person who easily gains but extremely difficult to lose weight.

We all can relate to that aren't we?

Especially if you have gone through pregnancy and childbirth.

Some people are so lucky that they don't gain too much during pregnancy and after birth, the excess weight just melts away.

And most of us aren't that lucky. 

There is so much pressure to get back in pre-pregnancy shape and it's even worse for a celebrity because their life is under constant scrutiny.

So back to Lisa's picture on Instagram, there were quite a number of kepochi, makcik bawang comment

"Kenapa gemuk?"

"Lisa nampak gemuk"

"So faaatttttttttt"

"Nampak berisi la yang"

Amboi kauuuuuuu. What disturbs me the most is most of these comments are from woman.

Woman who are supposed to understand the constant struggle with weight, body-image, self-image.

Woman who are supposed to support fellow sisters. 

As a woman, I'm disappointed with stories like this. 

Adoiiii kemon la. She just had a baby. Give her a break!

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Yang komen tu kalau diri sendiri helok tu takpe la jugak kan. Ni kalau diri sendiri pun tak semengah mana, baik duduk diam-diam, komen dalam hati je.


Tak payah nak keluarkan kata-kata yang mungkin boleh menyakitkan hati orang. 

Gemuk la, kurus la, hitam bertekang la, nenen kecik la, nenen lanjut la, dah tua dah tak cantik la. Selagi boleh komen, KOMEN SAJA.

You all have seen it. Heck, you probably have experienced it as well.

I experienced it since I was 10!

We all have self-esteem issues. We all feel insecure at times. All of us are fighting our own battle.
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What's yours?
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Many woman are unhappy with their body and what's worse is many woman are making each other feel like this.

And where does this body shaming come from?

From a world that is obsessed with superficiality, a society that only view one type of body as the beauty standard. 

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When we attack someone based on how they look, it only shows our weakness. It's often those with the most insecurities that are quick to breakdown someone else.


It distracts from the real task at hand, which is to improve our own energy and living our own life in a meaningful way that doesn’t hurt others.

f you have a healthy, functioning body that enables you to live life and do all the physical things you want to do, you are extremely lucky and should always be grateful. 

Instead of putting each other down in order to lift ourselves up, let's start being more encouraging of one another.

If you have nothing encouraging to say, the least you can do is keep your mouth shut or your fingers from typing unwelcome remarks. 




https://www.huffingtonpost.com/michelle-boklage/when-women-body-shame-eac_b_11037030.html
https://www.elitedaily.com/life/women-body-shaming-women/1705925

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